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When a child rejects a parent after family separation, the experience can feel sudden, bewildering and absolute. This book offers a compassionate yet clinically grounded guide to understanding what is happening beneath the surface, reframing rejection not as choice, but as a meaningful psychological response by children to relational stress.

Drawing on attachment theory, neuroscience and relational psychoanalysis, this book explores the internal world of children who become aligned with one parent and reject the other. It sets out a staged model of the child's psychological journey, from early relational strain through splitting and disappearance into emergence and integration. Alongside this, chapters introduce the Lighthouse Keeping approach to therapeutic parenting, offering parents and practitioners structured ways of responding to rejection, rebuilding a sense of relational safety without escalating conflict. The book examines the relational dynamics within the wider family system, including the role of projection, trauma transmission and loyalty conflicts, and provides practical frameworks, diagrams and guidance for intervention in complex cases across clinical, legal and social care contexts.

Moving beyond polarised debates, this essential book offers a framework, drawing from developmental, relational and neuropsychological perspectives, that restores focus on the child's internal experience and the conditions required for reintegration. This is an essential read for parents experiencing rejection, and the mental health practitioners who support them.